We've been married nearly 3 years and our sex life has never been great. Throughout our whole relationship my husband has always had a problem with his penis going soft half way through sex. I've done my best to not make an issue of it but he gets so upset by it when it happens its always the end of sex and I'm left frustrated though I try not to show it. I haven't had an orgasm in over a year and that was by myself. We've talked and he says he worries just before we have sex about his erection but other than that doesn't think about it.

He doesn't have a very good sex drive either. Mine was a lot higher but over the years has dampened down due to the situation.

Sometimes on a night after he's been asleep about an hour he starts to play with me in his sleep which wakes us both and we have sex no problem. He doesn't have a problem with keeping his erection then at all. I love him and I want to help but this situation. I'm starting to think its my fault and he doesn't fancy me anymore. In my own head I think its cos he can't bear to look to look at me naked. I've kept that thought to myself though.