jax, i'm so sorry that your family puts you through this hell. it's a lot more common than you think it is........my mom and i were fine until i grew old enough to have an opinion and started thinking for myself. and then i figured out some things that had happened to me when i was 5-7 and our relationship really wasn't much after that. i went to a Pdoc and it took him 5 years to help me figure out that what she did to me wasn't my fault and that i had to detach from her.

detaching was really hard but my life improved immeasurably when i did. i stayed away until i was 56. sometimes you have to do what you have to do to stay alive and sane. any time you want to talk to me, send me a PM.......i've got BIG ears and can listen to you and send cyber hugs.....

i know how hard this is........i only have contact with one member of my immediate family now.......i miss my parents but i don't miss the craziness of my middle years..........

i'm here.........love, pat