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Old Jan 18, 2014, 10:02 PM
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Originally Posted by Raging Quiet View Post
I've been reflecting on my therapy over the years, I think mine has failed because mine and T's boundaries were blurred.

My t has;

- given me gifts and free sessions and accepted gifts from me.
- my sessions go over by 15/20 mins (sometimes more)
- she wanted me to teach her how to do a sport.
- she went on holiday and forgot to tell me (luckily I asked)
- she's a body psychotherapist so she touches and massages me (some bodies like BACP don't believe in touching AT all)
- she's told me she doesn't keep any notes for me.
- She sees my best friend for therapy also (against her accrediting body rules)
- telling me details about her family and neighbours
- she's raised her voice and hit a wall in frustration
- tells me her opinions (I'm selfish, should see a shaman? Shouldn't have IVF and just adopt as 'plenty of children out there', melodramatic, she didn't believe my Sui thoughts)
- when I blacked out in her office she made me food (that was a kind thing)

It makes me feel my t has a connection with me, when she doesn't.

Has your t crossed boundaries?
Hi Raging Quiet, this doesn't seem right and it appears you felt it wasn't right as you were aware of the boundaries being crossed. Im assuming this experience is in the past as you say therapy failed due to the boundary crossings.its not clear if your currently in therapy but I would discuss it with my current T if I was effected by it.

My T was always professional and didn't cross any boundaries, we never touched (shook hands etc) and boundaries were never an issue.

Last edited by Bentay; Jan 18, 2014 at 10:16 PM.
Thanks for this!
Raging Quiet