That usually indicates a lack of communication on both sides. If you are not making it known to him what you want/ need he will have no way of knowing. Mind-reading is never an option in a marriage neither is assuming anything. But it takes communication to achieve that & also being in touch with what makes you happy or not because if you don't really know how can you expect him to know what you need to make you happy.

It seems like for some marriage comes easier but that's usually because we aren't there to see the difficult times.

I came across a man that my H & i both worked with he commented that he thought everything was good with our marriage....he didn't see the behind the scenes things that are hidden within the home.

Therapy could not only help you learn more about yourself but also teach you better communication to be sensitive yet get what makes you happy & learn the art of negotion. DBT is really good for learning all those skills.

Wishing you the best

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