as far as telling family that you are bpd, proceed with caution. Mental illness has such a stigma attached that
nobody wants to talk about it, much less admit that a family member has it. I told my family and regret doing it. my sister has totally disowned me, I haven't spoken to her for a couple of years despite attempts to explain. my dad is in total denial. He's one of those 'pull yourself up by the bootstraps' kind of people. My bro is the most sympathetic but he still nas no inclination to learn anything about it. My family thinks if you don't talk about something it doesn't exist. I told them that if they learned a bit about it they would understand me better. No interest on that at all. That's been my experience with it. But good luck to you, you are the best to decide.