Growlycat, I agree that crossings can be very helpful. If she had not crossed these boundaries, I would not be healed to the point I am today:

*Loaned me a book (then told me a few sessions later that she didn't loan books to clients...lol).
*Used to hug me every session (now about every 3rd session).
*Has accepted quite a few gifts (mostly cards and poems, but also jewelry I make).
*Has asked me to stay if I'm the last client of the day to walk her out during the winter.
*Has allowed me to fix various tech devices (iPad, iPhone, iTunes, square she takes payments with) when I've offered.
*Has agreed to see two of my friends, but hasn't actually seen either one.
*Self-disclosed a LOT (I know she shared a great deal so I would open up to her)
*Displayed a handmade card I gave her for 1.5 years.
*Sharing her religion and political stance.

The things that could be considered violations (depending on one's POV...I don't see them that way as we have an unusual relationship):
*A couple of conversations we had outside of session regarding another counselor and a staff member at her old practice (she prefaced the convo by saying she wouldn't tell any other client...that I'm different).
*One time she actually became angry and raised her voice at me.
*Hiring me to develop the website and marketing package for her new practice. This has led to:
***A lot of emailing back and forth.
***Texting several times.
***A phone call one Sunday.
***Meeting 1x/week outside of session for 1.5-3 hours at a time.
***Actually getting to know T's non-therapeutic personality.

Where I am in therapy now is pretty cool because she and I both can effectively separate the therapy from the other. I'm now working on my biggest demons. Plus I get advice on becoming a T. It works for me.