My adult daughter is spoiled and unappreciative and blames me for everything wrong in her life - but I've contributed to it by enabling it for so long. Is it possible to fix what I've done or is it simply too late? Despite doing the things I did to *help* her (we went through hell with this kid, including her stealing from us and running away, and I simply didn't know how to handle it), I feel like I've failed her as a mom. I have a second daughter with whom I have an awesome relationship. I don't want to give up on the first, especially since I am partly (mostly?) to blame for the situation, but I think it may be a) too late and b) the best thing for her. I just wish she would let us see our grandson because that is breaking my heart and not good for him either.

Thoughts?