Thank you Syra for your kind and supportive words. I'm still working on the self-criticism and self-doubt-it's an on-going struggle but at least there is a part of me that can see the reality of what happened. Your words are helpful to me, in helping to strengthen that part of me and I truly appreciate that.

Hello coltranefanatic-Thank you for your response. I think that your experience is the more common one in that people are more than likely left to figure out/deal with/heal from/recover from the effects of transference/feelings that arise in a therapy relationship on their own as opposed to receiving a healing response from the therapist. I don't understand why this is the case when it's such an important aspect of the therapy experience and when so many clients experience feelings that are to the extent that they cause pain and discomfort and in some cases are debilitating. Some therapists seem to be able to be helpful but it just doesn't seem like that is the norm. I am sorry to hear that your therapist is responding in a cold and distant way. Do you feel comfortable talking to him/her about this?