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Originally Posted by Seeker30
Maybe I'm reading to much into this but I don't get it. I've had about a dozen sessions with this new therapist and every one of them he casually brings up his girlfriend out of the blue. Like I told him I'm uncomfortable in big crowds and he'll respond with 'my girlfriend is the same way', another time I told him I havent been in a relationship in quite a while and he proceeded to tell me how much he cared for his girlfriend. This has happened EVERY session.
The first few times I didnt think much of it, but after it continued during each session I started wondering why is he doing this? I almost get the feeling he is trying to send me the message 'do not become romantically interested in me', but the truth is I do not feel that way, have never asked him anything about his personal life and have never contacted him outside of therapy. Nor do I flirt or anything of that nature. Anyone have any theories about this or am I just thinking to much about it?
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From what you've written here, it sounds to me that despite his experience, that maybe he doesn't have a lot of skill in summarizing/interpreting how
you feel, or in laying out the context of all your past experiences that relate to why you may feel x or y or z in the moment, so it's easier for him to provide examples that parallel your feelings instead. Or it could be that he is way overdoing simply trying to normalize your feelings, which again, could come from lack of skill. It could have simply become habit over the years.
My other thought is that you remind him very much of his girlfriend, so it's simply hard for him to not mention her.
I don't think you're overthinking anything, but maybe it has less to do with you personally, and more with him? Hope you can ask him and find out for sure.