I personally don't go to therapy for reparenting. I want to be treated as an equal with mutuality and respect. There are elements of things I didn't get to experience as a child that are present in my therapeutic relationship, especially a kind of attunement and true caring, but I don't experience it as reparenting. I feel I have lacked certain skills and experiences that are normal between humans and I'm finally with someone healthy enough to model that behavior and a healthy relationship. I can internalize that and bring to the rest of my life, but I don't find myself looking to my therapist as a parental figure and would be offended if the relationship were configured that way.

I don't really understand the concept of "self reparenting" because it seems like a contradiction. I believe that we all are relational and intersubjective so how would you be able to pull yourself out of your relationships with others to the extent that you would have a separate relationship with yourself that was like a parent-child relationship? I understand it more in the sense of learning some self-care and other things that maybe you didn't learn at the right developmental stage, but again, I see those things as also influenced by relationships in your life. We work and play in interaction with others. Even if we are alone in one sense or another, we still tend to define ourselves and the world based on other people. I just lean toward a more collectivist sense of people and think that the emphasis on independent individualism is a myth, especially in segments of America.