I was sexually abused as child by my mother's father. When I told her at 12, I had already stopped the abuse by never being alone with him. Her reaction was to bury it, as she had her own childhood abuse. I thought I was ok with this until recently. I am now 44 and I am dealing with a situation where she has chosen to ignore and bury another issue. This situation is a sibling's adultery and lying to his family and us. He is doing it openly enough to have been seen and still he denies it to mother, wife and kids. I cannot speak with my mother about my sibling because I feel so betrayed that she would chose to believe him rather than face the truth and as painful as that might be begin the healing process. I am so angry and hurt that it has impacted my relationship with her and my brother. Am I expecting too much and over reacting??? Can't sleep, chest feels like a band is on it and I am eating too much so I really need to deal better.