Ha ha Sunrise.....snacking? Never thought of that one! Guess they do need snack time as well.

My girlfriend went to a t when se broke up from a 10 year relationship and this guy fell asleep and snored during her session! Rude and unacceptable...even as she cried....

Yep, my t always asks if I want water....since I almost always arrive with a Starbucks I usually decline. She often comments about how she like Chai tea and says "mmmm, starbucks" so I've often wanted to bring her one, but feel weird about that.

Alex...yep done soooo much research on the ethics/boundaries/violations bit and probably found the same as you. Some are pro-crossing if/when the situation calls for it (requires careful consideration etc). Some are completely ANTI boundary crossing. Mine has minor little ones, like she copied a music cd for me and accepted one from me as well. She self discloses fairly a lot, imo. She said she was interested in why I drown myself in this artist's music and tries to listen to it from my viewpoint as best she can to see where I'm coming from. She laughs and tells me I'm very dark and draws many conclusions from other clients who've given her songs by the same artist as I. She teases me a bit about listening to Tori Amos so much.

That's primarily why I posted this, wondering how people's therapists "deal" with this etc.

In my case I have past trauma both childhood and adult of the physical/emotional and sexual nature so I think that really factors in with her. But still, sometimes I want a hug or something, especially when SHE cries during what I'm saying, or when she gets upset about what has happened to me. I belive she'll never initiate due to my history and her fear that I may feel violated ot threatened etc.

Then again, I am gay (she's straight) and maybe she worries I'll "fall" for her, lol. I do like her a great deal, but she's not my "type" ha ha, so I don't hink an innocent brush or touch would lead me to that. I'm also happily in a long-term relationship.

Wow, pamelasu, you are brave and it paid off! I wish I could do that....maybe I can ask her why she sits so far and maybe I can move closer to her. I don't think I could ask her for a hug, I couldn't handle the rejection if it happens. She is just so kind and genuine that it feels natural that she would do this in these moments so I'm confused a bit or put off that she never reaches out to me, not even to move closer to "test" me or help me in this way. Well, maybe I'll test the waters a bit and become more "open" to touch with her, I think she's afraid as I sit curled up or cross-legged in a chair apparently no other client uses and tightly hold myself together and seem guarded I think.