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Old Jan 20, 2014, 01:39 AM
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Originally Posted by Mactastic View Post
Ugh, I really understand how that feels. I tried to bring this up last week in session but I lost my nerve. I am the same age as my T so the friendship lens is pretty magnified. I'm very afraid any familiarity I have with him will be misconstrued as flirting. I do not want my T in real life, as much as I 'love' him.
I have the same fears. My p doc is only a few years older and we have some things in common. I never ask himm any questions even though I want to because I've been so afraid friendliness will be misconstrued as flirting. I end up shutting down and in the past avoided any friendly small talk he tried to make. I feel like I've worked through the transference a bit but am still anxious and tongue tied when we stop talking about my "issues". I don't really want him in real life, but I can't get him out of my mind when I'm away from him.