Keep at it. Don't give up. Once you terminate, then the T remains forever to blame for the failure of the r/s.

Be that as it may, our job is to find our responsibility for living our lives. Other people are unpredictable and uncontrollable ... we can only control ourselves. Before dumping stuff on T and then running away, we need to figure out our part in the whole thing. I've been wrestling with this for over a year and a half, and I think both T and I are both sick to death of it. But I need to figure out what part of the blame is on me. Once I know that, then he gets the rest of it, but at least I'll understand it all and be at peace with it.

At leas,t I hope ....

Make sense?