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and that brings me to a point: it is very controversial... i found something on the internet about boundary 'crossings' versus boundary 'violations'. you can probably find it through google if you are interested. it was fairly novel / slightly revolutionary, however.

the article on boundary crossings vs violations challenged this accepted wisdom and basically talked about how boundary crossings (such things as hugs etc) can actually be legitimately used to help therapy along...

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Alexandra, I think I posted the link for this exact same article a couple of weeks ago in one of the threads here! It was very thought-provoking. I have a lot of boundary crossings in my therapy, mostly of the self-disclosure type from T, and they have been totally therapeutic, so I found a lot of this guy's article in sync with what I know to be true through experience.

I'm fine with the fact that we don't do hugs in my therapy. I feel so close to him even without physical contact.

Talulah, I also thought it was kind of cool my T eats while I am there. He didn't at first, but as we got used to each other and achieved some kind of bond, he started doing it. I thought it was cool he felt comfortable enough with me to eat in my presence. It's certainly better than sleeping! That was terrible about what you wrote about your friend's T sleeping/snoring during her session. I think you should try bringing your T a Chai from Starbucks sometime. It sounds to me like she's practically begging for it!