Thanks for your help, everyone.
I think he is BPD & DPD....LOL with a lot of anger issues. He runs hot & cold & has been very explosive. I've walked on eggshells for the longest time & I'm not happy. I can not live like this or put my family...son & animals through this. I broke it off completely with him after I coughed @ 4am from post nasal drip because I have a cold & he told me to shut up because he has to work. He's a miserable person & I can't continue to be his door mat.
He left on Sunday & my home is full of positive energy. My son & animals don't seem to miss him & are happier.