I gave some insight into an earlier posting - I was trying to describe metaphorically how to transfer your own feelings into someone else for example if you had suffered a loss you know how devastating that is and therefore it is easier for you to relate to someone else in the same position - and all I was saying was that few people are totally empathetic - especially in the society in which we live - it cost so much to be a full human being and to reach out and feel others sorrows and hurts and to embrace the world in all it's entirety so small steps go along way the loving smile, the tender touch etc.