You are fighting a pretty big battle with the kids. My husband did that with his kids when they came for weekends and then one moved in at 16 and my life was never the same again. We'er still married but I don't know why. We don't really have a life together anymore and that was many years ago.

I'm sorry the job market is as bad as it is. You shouldn't have to work for minimum wage, but life doesn't go by rules. It is sad. I wish you luck.