Hey lady,
remember that we only accept the love we think we deserve. StrongerMan is right; if you don't love yourself first, you won't become the person you hope to, and you won't accept love around you that helps you get there.
Also, how ludicrous is it that there's this game we play after break-ups (some of them, anyways) where the winner is the one who's fit and happily employed and moved on... though it's hard to see things differently now, you've got your whole life to find happiness and meaning that's all yours, regardless of comparison to this one ex-boyfriend. Who knows what the future will bring, but don't sit around waiting for it to happen to you if you want any say in how it ends up!