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Old Jan 21, 2014, 10:44 PM
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It can definitely be hard. I understand where you're coming from. My husband frequently travels for work. I try to stay focused on myself and think of it as an opportunity to do things for myself and not feel guilty that I'm not spending time with him. When he worked in the same town, but worked ridiculously long hours, I wanted to spend every available minute with him because we didn't have that many together. This limited things I would do just for me, like taking a ballet class or going out with friends -- I'd only do those things while he was at work. With this new job, I'm able to do more things for myself like that.

I also find that continuing a "normal" relationship while he's away helps, like telling him the little mundane things of my day. I usually just send a text message about some little thing going on, and don't expect a reply for a few hours (if at all), so there's no pressure. We make time to talk to each other on the phone every night, even if it's just for a little while. Sometimes, it's still really hard... I'm in a bit of funk right now. Keep reminding yourself that he's not abandoning you. He's going to come back, and the reason he's doing what he's doing is because he loves you and your daughter. If anything, even though he has to leave, he's showing how committed he is to your relationship as you guys are working on a team providing the best life possible for each other and your daughter.

I think journaling is a good idea. I'm glad you spent time with your husband even though it was difficult, both emotionally and because of your sensitivity. I think you have a great plan in place for the next couple days. Just keep focusing on you and your daughter and the things you can all do as a family when he comes home. I'm glad posting here has been helpful to you. PM me if you ever need anyone to talk to.
Thanks for this!
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