OE, you hit the nail on the head about my mom's parents. My grandmother is an extremely manipulative woman who never gave my mom the love she needed. She was awful to her. She is also an alcoholic. So, my mom tries to make it up to me by being the mother that she never had. Especially, after the awful childhood I had. I try and tell her that I'm not angry about the past, but I am angry about the present. How she is holding me back from getting better and will not pay any attention to any boundary I set. She even got so out of control once, that she called my md. I would occasionally get steroid injections in my lower back, due to an injury. There was that scare awhile back and she got so freaked she called my doc, because I didn't call her back within an hour. The codependency is killing me and it's beginning to break me down. Thanks everyone for the advice. I know that she's not going to change and I have to. I have to buy the boundary book.