Hi ruda-I know exactly what you meant about about situations where you'd be feeling how you do regardless of your past. I think my T can tell if he should ask questions about the present or past when these cases apply to me. One time recently he started going to the past, and I just told him what you said here-i'd feel this way regardless of my past. But he is extremely attuned to me, so that doesn't happen often.

Former T and I mostly talked about the present/our relationship. Both were psychoanalysts, so you can have psychodynamic therapy without talking about the past. (And I'm assuming you are in psychodynamic therapy if she always wants to talk about the past.)

Don't let this experience bring you down or discourage you from therapy. Just tell her when you don't want to talk about the past at the time you bring up the subject. Go tell her (if you are able to) and let us know what he says.

But keep in mind -It's common for people to think the past hasn't affected them that much, only to find the opposite is true as therapy progresses. So maybe give it a try first? If it doesn't work out, maybe an inter-personal therapy T would be a better fit for you. There are many different approaches.

Can you tell us what brought you to therapy in the first place?

oooh just read your other post. Yes, it doesn't sound like her approach is for you.