I was just thinking about how most posts/thinking are about problems we're having or things that are hurting or confusing us at the moment and wondered how a "diet" of interactions like that might affect one in the long run.

Now I think of problem solving as a positive thing and look for opportunities in things that go wrong :-) and realize "all sun makes a desert" and that when things are going well, there's nothing that needs to be "done" about them, etc. but I worry when I go looking for things to work on?

Even a forum of "self-help ideas" imply one needs to/might be interested in helping or "improving" one's self. Occasionally I like to turn things around and look at opposites; I have made lists of "Ten things I'm not going to do today" :-) and often when I'm thinking about my weight, I realize that if I were to eat and exercise at what would maintain me at whatever weight I want to weigh, then I'd gain/lose depending on where I am now without doing "anything" special. Often the first thing we think about when we want to lose weight is how few calories we should eat but if we ate more, but less than we do now that we're overweight and gaining, that would work too?

So, how would you make change and growth in yourself positive and "fun" rather than a problem or project or somthing that has to be "fixed"? I go to my refrigerator too often and look inside and I've thought of the idea of putting a book(s) inside to nourish myself with instead.

I have various reading and papers due for school and am procrastinating working on them; I have vacuuming and cleaning that needs doing (two cats I'm allergic too and a too perfumey litter I otherwise like but they're getting it on themselves then spreading the smell everywhere); the backside of my house has construction happening and is "open" to the elements and water is getting in under my carpet and "rotting" so there's a heavy smell of mold (which I think I'm especially allergic to) and my asthma is acting up. However, I feel powerless to do anything about that since I can't make the construction people come in the cold and ice and finish and can't afford to rip up the carpet (and don't want to see what may be festering underneath especially before the problem's fixed) and I'm running out of asthma meds and my health care professional changed offices/affiliations and I haven't gotten in touch with her in her new situation yet. So I have various niggling worries happening and am wishing I could change them from "worries" to "things I look forward to doing" :-)