So sorry to hear history is repeating itself in your life but until anyone with an addiction commits to getting help the problem remains, even though there may be gaps of abstinence that seem hopeful. I hope you have heard of Al-Anon, a support group for family and friends of those whose lives have been affected by alcoholism. It is in nearly every city and of course they have a website. Dealing with an alcoholic alone is 'too much for most of us' as their opening statement says.

Al-Anon and CoDependents Anonymous helped me tremendously with my life issues as well as my mood problems. Hugs - you need support.