Did she actually lecture you or just ask you questions to which you gave answers you "knew" were not making you look like a healthy person? So your teeth are not your priority. Maybe they are not rotten or falling out now but I can almost guarantee you they will and it will not be pretty or fun. My husband did not like the pain of deep cleaning so just quit going to the dentist and let his teeth fall out and eventually he had the rest pulled and has dentures doesn't have to go to the dentist ever again or listen to people who care about him and his health (ask him about having his face swollen with sudden, life-threatening infection).

I want people who care helping me take care of me, even wish I could have my stepmother back, despite her controlling nature and our flawed relationship. I always knew my stepmother loved me, like I knew I loved her; we both knew that. We had an impossible relationship though. Now, after a zillion years of therapy, if I had her back I could do a lot better job of the relationship, maybe help her feel better maybe not feel so bad myself when dealing with her, etc. But I do not mind she took me to the dentist when I was 5 and every 6 months after that as I grew up to get my teeth cleaned and get that habit ingrained in me (and no, I almost NEVER floss and don't brush my teeth often enough and I end up paying a couple thousand dollars a year to keep my mouth happy/"up-to-date" so I don't have to have dentures/worse problems than I have).

My teeth are not my priority either but I do not mind that they are my hygienist's priority when I am with her. I learned to love my therapist's snippy attitude when I got the bit between my teeth and was determined to go in a way she thought would not help me. I feel it is like sonar and while I'm running deep, I want all the feedback I can get?