Our situations are very similiar. I was in the same position but was so blinded that I made deadly mistakes! But I can see yours as clear as day! Isn't that funny how life is? I try to take my own advice but it doesn't work all the time because I'm involved emotionally.
Don't go back to him! Let him go. He isn't the man for you. Anyone that disrespects the things you love is WRONG for you! Stay strong & prayers!