I haven't found that at all... not that I am some spectacularly special snowflake, but I think many people would hesitate to attach the words "mundane", "average" or "typical" to my general day-to-day disposition or behaviors. I have found many men to be interested in me regardless, but I don't think there's a special "knack" to attracting someone.

I think that if people see something the are intimidated by, they will likely be more harsh in their interactions- sometimes engage by trying to tear a person down rather than risk having that happen to them.

It doesn't mean there is something wrong with you.
It means that there is a small population of people who are worth your time, so more patience and tolerance to get through all the crap is necessary. Just because something is hard to find it doesn't mean it is non-existent. Ive also found that different online sites tend to have a different "atmosphere".