she really is sabau. she has taught us the strength in learning to ask for help, learning to receive help, and learning to differentiate when to try on our own and when to let go of pride and accept assistance.

raising two kids solo after being widowed certainly created hardships in her life. she was firmly loving and very supportive to both her children....but she also had her limits and would stop in an instant if we crossed those limits.

her examples are a good portion of how we've managed to survive the hard times through our diseases/disorders.

there is strength in setting and maintaining boundaries....especially when someone has great needs.....needs will always be there........the ability to meet those needs won't be.........one has to learn they can't meet every need of every person---including themselves.

we all need others and sometimes that even means someone other than mom.

sounds like you were instrumental in teaching valuable lessons to your daughter. it can't be easy to "turn your back" as you said but it really isn't turning your back but instead showing your strength in maintaining your boundary. by doing that you were able to show your daughter that you weren't her 24/7 whipping post. it can be shocking as an adult daughter to have one's mother stand their ground but in long run it benefits BOTH mother and daughter. you're good mamma to love your daughter enough to set and maintain those limits.