Depends on the counselling.....if you just get someone who sits there & listens to you dump on them.....NO. If you get someone who helps you learn the skills that are missing in your life to be able to let go & get to a better place & see the big picture & radically accept it (DBT seriously has helped me & I'm NOT BPD).....think it can help a lot. I am the one that left the bad marriage & moved 2100 miles away...have been going through so many other issues in my life that I need the help with & I never have had the desire to EVER get back together as it was a miserable 33 years with him that I would NEVER want to go back to....I would be a fool......but it helps to have the backing that the way I'm feeling is valid given what I went through because for everyone else....it was I who was the problem in the marriage....no one could see through his NICE cover-up just how bad he really was......so I need support in that area......& it does help no matter what issues we come away with as long as the T is someone who really gets in there & works with the issues