hang tough KD. it can't be easy when medical complications are in play but that still doesn't mean you have to be doormat to her out of control emotions.

it is all the more difficult when there is awareness when not in the moment of how elevated her emotions are. of course she feels awful for not being in control. of course you feel awful she feels awful and so on. everyone feels awful but what can be done to minimize those awful feelings?

sounds like you've got some good ideas to put into place and practice.

complex is probably the most accurate word for mother daughter relationships.

take care of you so that you not only can but want to help your daughter when you're able. the more stable and reliable you are in your reponses the less likely she'll be able to mow over anyone with her emotions. ((kd's daughter...it is so hard when biology takes over and one's emotions are no longer in control)))