Sunrise, I guess that is pretty cool that your t munches a bit. It relates to the comfort level you two share......very cool.

Perna, that is a very interesting experience! I would have felt so akward. We have never met outside of the office but may be frequenting the same gym so I'm nervous about that. At least she picked up the tab, ha ha, therapy is indeed expensive!

Hmmm, you guys are right about my body language, but honestly i sit so far (it seems) that I feel akward as though she IS reading my language so much. the scrutiny kinda makes me close up too. I think I will try to sit with my feet on the floor and maybe my arms more relaxed. I won't use the couch thou, dunno why, just don't like the couch so much.

Alex, yea for sure, put your feet on the couch! If you're unsure, asking, like you suggested is good, but I bet he'd be ok with that. Probably it might raise your little face up as well instead of staring down, if you change your body position maybe you'll end up with your face looking more in his "direction" which would be interesting (for you both!).

As for the starbucks.......yea, I might try that. Sometimes it feels like we're just really good friends and there is no power differential existing between us. I have to remind myself that we're not!

Umm, my t self discloses a lot too. I like it so far, it helps, I still fear the day I learn too much though. But so far, yea, she reveals things and I get surprised a bit. This is where the line can blur I bet. Even for her as she's told me that she likes me very much (not like THAT) it would be fun to be friends if the ethics allowed. And, that I'm easy to care for. She told me that she often has to search deep into herself to find things she likes about some of her clients. I stooped therapy for a few months when I couldn't deal with some of the issues we were touching on. I could tell she was bummed, and I wanted her to "come after" me. Upon my return she told me how glad she was that I came back and that she wanted to reach out to me, but to do that would be doing that for her, and not for me. She has to be careful that all she does is in my best interest (as Alex stated earlier) I think she eeks to that edge with me because I feel her wanting to do "friend" like things with me and I can tell she withdraws for ethics purposes (which I respect and admire actually), but it does also confuse at times.

Reading those boundary crossing articles are intreresting because I test my t against those. But I can get pretty analytical about it.

I like you guys revealing about your ts. It puts a fresh perspective on it all, and somehow I'm seeking this knowledge to help, in part, guide me as well...