No body deserves to be demeaned. The world is too full of all sorts to point a finger at one or the other and say its not fair.
Its too easy to blame, but the real test of courage is what you decide to do about it, if you don't want to be a demeaned woman take the high road and act with character, let your actions speak for themselves. Stand on your own two feet and think for yourself. This doesn't mean that you can't have a man in your life, it means that the kind of man you choose will more likely respect the woman that you are, and be strong enough to be those things for himself without bringing you down.
It takes a long time to be that kind of woman, and society and even other women will have you beleive that you have to lower your standards and values in order to be more 'likeable', but you don't.
Just try not to give into the lower thinking...you already know better, thats why you are resisting...learn more about what that means to you, and become that independant, valuable, but loveable woman and you'll like yourself.