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Originally Posted by Speedy Gonzales
Could be physical or psychological.
Does he have nocturnal/awakening erections? If he does, it would suggest more likely a psychological element. If not, possibly a hormonal issue.
Does he ever fantasize about sex?
Does he get irritable or moody easily?
Has he tried Cialis or Viagra?
Perhaps you could go to your doctor together. A lot of men have these issues as some point in their lives.
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He does have nocturnal erections now and then. He sometimes wakes us both up to find he's started playing with me. I do think its psychological but I've no idea how to help him. He's 27 so I'm not sure he would go for Viagra. He wont go to the doctors.
He doesn't fantasize about sex. We're usually very honest with each other. I've asked him if he has a fantasy I could maybe help with but he says he has none. He says he doesnt think about sex much either. His moods are pretty stable and he doesnt get angry easily.
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Originally Posted by hamster-bamster
I think you should have him go on cialis if only for the placebo effect of being reassured. Another idea is not have him enter you until you have at least one orgasm clitorally, assuming that is how you orgasm. Your sex lifw is way too penis-centric atm.
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You're right our sex life is very penis orientated. My husband isnt the most of passionate lovers. I've tried to tell him what I like and guide him with what works for me but he never does it again. He does go down on me now and then but I get so self conscious (I'm overweight) that he's bored or I smell or I'm awful to look at that I stop it. During intercourse when he goes soft that is always the end of sex. We've talked about it and I've suggested that we can maybe do other things even if it does happen but when it does actually happen he just stops altogether and its over.
Dont get me wrong, my husband is the most amazing guy and I love him dearly but our bedroom fun just isnt happening and I'd like to change it.