A lot of people can sense when someone has little faith in themselves [in whatever context]. They may not realize that is what they are picking up on, but they are. I used to be supposedly physically more attractive- I've gained weight and supposedlly that is not a basis for attraction [I actually agree that superficially, maybe my body was initially more appealing at that point. In the very least I fit into cuter clothing].

However, I thought pretty poorly of myself. I'm certain at this point that it could be felt by most around me. Things are really different now.

It's hard though, like a chicken and egg thing almost, where does it start?

If you find people are regularly attracted to you and try to flirt, your self esteem may get a boost; if you have a really positive opinion of yourself, you are more attractive... so how to get it all started?

unsure.