kimmy hon you can't fix everything for her. we are not supermom's although we would love to be. you can be there to help her but some she has to do on her own. I know the pain of the disk issues. I have 3 that are significantly torn. you can help with that but the emotional stuff she has to do. take care of yourself too hon. you have an overflowing plate with all you are doing. we love you around here and want you to be ok too.