I'm in danger of losing the love of my life because we can not fight the same. He needs space and I need to talk things out. This seems so basic buts its killing us and we both cant handle our fights.

We've been together nearly three years but have only live in the same city together for 8 months. Since he moved in we've had horrible fights that last for days.

He or I will say something wrong, one of us will snap, he'll run downstairs to be alone and I'll follow him. If I follow him he'll leave the house and get a hotel or sleep in his car. I'll be angry he didn't talk to me so ill call over and over until he does, which usually just results in another fight, the next day he still won't speak to me and asks for space. I'll be fine up until I'm going to bed alone and I'll totally lose it on him because I feel like I'm being ignored, he'll leave the house again, ignore me. This goes on for days, him wanting space, and me feeling like I deserve to be talked to about our fight.

So who is right or wrong? How do you solve it when one needs space and one needs to vent? We can't figure it out and we both blame each other for not respecting what the other needs. We love each other deeply and want to be together but we can't live like this.

Other women say their men need a cooling off period too - but do we ignore our own needs for the relationship or is there a better solution?