I've had no 1 a lot of times, usually in the same conversation as commenting how how I must be intelligent because of the fluid way that I talk (or write), so they think I mustn't have any problems. Whenever I try to explain how Asperger's makes me feel, I've often got the cheery response "well, we are having a conversation now and you are doing fine!" which is probably meant in the same complimentary way, but nevertheless serves to sort of invalidate whatever I'm trying to say to them.