Hi Smilie,

That is a really difficult situation. I just ended a relationship with someone I wasn't sure of. Being a recovering alcoholic myself, it was really hard to be with someone who drank. I'm not sure if he's alcoholic, but he's at least a heavy drinker....it didn't affect his work, but he never seemed to have quite enough money to keep him satisfied, and he got in the car when he was drunk. Our lifestyles were very different. I thought I could love him through it.....but there wasn't enough there to cope, and guard my own sobriety. It's a decision I finally came to after bouncing off ideas on my friends, and here on the boards. I can suggest that you check out Alanon...its support for people who love heavy drinkers/alcoholics. But in the end, it will be your decision as to whether you can love him through and keep your own happiness. I wish you luck!!!

~Rayna