Ptang, it wouldn't be appropriate to get into here, and the stuff he wants isn't illegal, I think... But they aren't things I feel comfortable doing. I am not a prude either. I don't think I should have to do things that make me feel uncomfortable to keep him satisfied. He certainly doesn't do that for me, but I haven't gone to solicit people online. He did tell someone that he was willing to pay.

I got a couple of hours of sleep and I guess I did some processing of the situation. I agree that the first step is to talk to my T to sort things out and the second step is to get myself tested for the full panel of STDs. Who knows if he has done anything either before or after we met that he hasn't told me and that could put my health at risk. He has lied about little things, so why not something like this? My third step is probably a lawyer, though it is the scariest of these steps.
I hated sleeping next to him last night. I wonder if I need to just deal with that so he doesn't get suspicious that I know something or if I can use his snoring as an excuse to sleep in the other room. I know he won't give up the bed because I have suggested he sleep in the other room due to his snoring and he said, " since you don't like it, why don't you?"