No, you didn't sound cold. I get what you are saying. There has been so much that has happened with us over the years, money issues, my bipolar, his lack of sex drive( or so I thought). We have been in therapy for 5 years now and it can't help if he is keeping secrets. I feel like if I confront him it would make him even more secretive and if he hasn't already, he might act out.

I am so sad.