Well it's weird with people I have know for a long time I don't have so much difficulty always but then sometimes I do, it's something that comes and goes in that case. With people I don't know at all I can either be very charming/engage them/seem to interest them (so far as I can tell) a lot at first but when it gets past surface things I have trouble or I feel very anxious and uncomfortable other times. The offering drinks/normal social stuff people do like that is across the board really- with everyone. Unless I want a drink I don't think of other people needing it naturally. I have begun to sporadically try to do this though sometimes I don't care and figure people can ask if they want something. (The whole thing kind of intrigues me a bit to be honest, not much though.) I seem to be fighting a war between what is logically acceptable and trying to do it and not really caring (not in the malicious or attitude way just apathy maybe?- feeling meh about it like it doesn't mean much either way.)- Sometimes I think I really care about this and other people and then sometimes I wonder if I do care or it's just my logical brain trying to do what other's do for the sake of not having hassles. And because I'm human like they are?? (I probably think too much lol.) hmm in fact does that matter much to most people? Is it a big thing? Do people feel hurt or something if this isn't done? Sorry this might be long or hard to understand sometimes I find it hard to express what I mean properly, feel free to ask if I have said things in confusing way or whatever. I'm kinda discombobulated right now ha ha ha. Basically I can be very easy going and get people to feel at ease sometimes (and I feel at ease) but others I have major anxiety/uncomfortable feeling or feeling like I am making others uncomfortable by not doing these "normal" things. I never used to feel that way, it took me maybe longer than it should have to see that maybe this was something weird about me cos to me it's not weird yet I saw this going on at everyone else's houses/parties whatever for years and it suddenly began to dawn on me that most people did certain things the same way. O_O Sometimes though I have the vague though to do these things but then think meh whatever so it's not just forgetting. I'm honestly not sure of what I have written is able to be understood properly right now, like I said if it's confusing/jumbled then just ask me what I ment, I might be more clear later I don't know. lol. I'm pretty sure I lack some social skills as I got accused of playing control game tonight- I wasn't I was just stunned and wanting to sit and zone out but it frustrated me cos I didn't understand why I got accused of that really. I tend to get frustrated and not be able to communicate how I feel properly at the time something happens like other people too, I have to go think it through and sort it out for a while before it makes sense. I'm not sure if I am anti-social or not but even if I am one thing I know is I'm not of the power hungry sort. I'm more hedonistic and don't like pressure much lol. I just wanted time to stare and chill :/ So you do these things too? Native traits... hmm in "normal", for want of a better word, people wouldn't native traits be doing these things though? (to cultural standards of the place they live in/ thier racial/religious traits?) I have tended to rebel against all the things like that in my life a bit. I tend to have no.. native traits I can think of though I did grow up in a bit of a wilder/undisciplined way so I guess my native traits could be sporadic, erratic, spontanious things maybe. :/