Being with someone isn't really about being right or wrong. A lot of things in everyday life are based on your own morals, views and beliefs. If these things aren't the same for both people then disagreements will happen.

Everyone is different and has their own way of dealing with things. The best thing to do is find a way that you and your significant other can reach and understanding and respect each other.

Maybe he needs his time to cool off? Me personally, I do that a lot. I need alone time to think about think. I am pretty black and white in my thinking and need time to find that gray area. If I get into an argument with her and just talk about how I feel at that moment then it is usually the black side of that feeling. Usually me feeling that the relationship has no hope and I can only seem to think of everything I don't like about her and a million reasons why I should move on. I need my time to put things into perspective and see the whole picture. So I can talk to her from a balanced perspective and be reasonable.

She is much different on the other hand. She has tao ways of dealing with things. The first is head on and just getting it down and over with whatever the outcome may be. The other is complete avoidance.

If you want things to work you have to find a way to coexist and let each person have what they need to cope with the situation. Would letting him have a little bit of alone time help if he talked to you after he has cooled off? Try to find something that works for both of you. Each of you are a different person and has different needs. Figure out what those are and find a way to coexist.