i think it can be really hard to stop seeing a therapist without having someone else in your life who can continue to play that role (i.e., another therapist). i mean, not when you are right at the end of therapy, of course, but in a middle part like this...

things might get a lot easier after you start seeing someone new. one thing to do might be to agree to have one session AFTER you have started to see the new person. that way you can stop saying goodbye all the time and it can be up to YOU to say goodbye to her?

would that help?