Maybe something to think about is what is exactly holding you back in your therapy?

• Do you not agree with your therapist's judgement or suggestions?
• Have you tried anything he's suggested?
• Is there a block on talking about something important?
• Are you feeling understood?
• Is it a collaborative relationship where you share, he shares, and you talk about solutions together?

• Are you clearly able to put your finger on what isn't working for you?
• Are you going around in circles because you're resisting change of some kind?

• What fundamentally do you disagree with during your "arguments"?

• Do you primary want to talk and gain insight or do you want advice?