tufan, please be careful. Anger/rage and the *** kissing is part of the cycle or dance as I call it. You need to break that think like a cheap plate. Shatter it and don't go back.

Find a different way to handle your issues. Do not keep treading those well worn paths because you will only keep digging yourself in deeper. You know the drill, if you keep doing what you've always done, you will always get what you've always got.

You want change, right?

Anger and rage were a part of my own cycle and it was used against me. I was manipulated by my husband by his passive aggressive bs into being pissed off. Then he would get to feel self righteous because he didn't have an anger problem.

Watch your actions and your husbands actions for manipulative tricks. See how he is getting you to do things for him and just for the fun of it, don't do it. Or mix it up and make him function for you, tit for tat or something.

Just want you to start looking at things objectively and maybe you can fix it so you feel better about things.

HourHand