Um yeah that comment about how people like to be demeaned made no sense. I think you meant a different word.

You have more control than you think. You do have a choice to act a certain way. Don't do what people [your aunt] expect you to do "as a woman" ie: be quiet and accept unacceptable behavior, never blame yourself. It's true that the internet has tons of "you belong in the kitchen" or "go make me a sandwich" It's stupid, don't take it personally. I also hate the saying "boys will be boys" like they have an excuse to act out. Men are responsible for their unacceptable behavior and actions as well, if you feel like anyone is disrespecting you, speak up