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Originally Posted by neutrino
I told him it's probably all my fault but he just said something like "or perhaps I just can't present the method well enough. I mean you're very smart and you're smart enough to argue against all of my arguments. Perhaps CBT just isn't what you need".
I realise these might be difficult questions but I'd really appreciate some help. This is tough.
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Sorry you are scared Neutrino.
I'll try and answer your questions..
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Fear 2: What if I'm making a huge mistake by giving up on CBT and/or this therapist?
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If you end up regretting leaving T, you could always go back, right?
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Fear 3: I fear opening up to yet another person. Even though I've been thinking about changing to another therapist for months (like I said) I guess I've sort of built up some sort of trust/relationship with my current therapist and it doesn't feel great just throwing that away. It actually makes me feel rather sad. In some weird sort of way I guess leaving would make me feel abandoned. Does that make sense?
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Yes, it makes sense. Even though you would be making the choice to leave, it might feel like he gave up on you, which could leave you feeling abandoned. Maybe you could just consult with another T for now rather than leave your T? That might alleviate some of your fears.
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Fear 5: What if no one can help me?
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That's irrational-catastrophic-anxious thinking (I have this issue too)
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Question 1: How do I know which kind of therapy to choose? CBT or psychodynamic therapy?
Question 2: Should I even consider trying something else?
Question 3: What are your good/bad experiences with the aforementioned kinds of therapy?
Question 4: Any other thoughts?
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Yes, from what your T said, quoted above, it sounds like you might rationalize and intellectualize, which are often used as emotional defenses. CBT can make that worse (and I think that is one reason it works for some-it strengthens these defenses). You most likely won't be able to do that with psychodynamic therapy. If you rationalize and intellectualize, the therapist wouldn't engage in any "argument". S/he'd listen and accept, so you'd naturally stop thinking since the T wouldn't reciprocate, and you'd be forced to feel rather than think. That could be a considerable change for you.
I know i'm probably in the minority here, but I think therapeutic modality does matter. CBT can cause you to live more in your head. I remember some of your patterns from when you helped me with my OCD anxiety questions a few months ago, and I'm thinking that maybe you could benefit from feeling more and thinking less. I could be wrong, but I wanted to give you my thoughts in case it helped.
Hope it works out for the best.
