Why don't, at some point when you're both calm and happy, you both work out a plan for when you argue?

He needs some time. You need to discuss it. Why not allow for some time, and then you discuss it? Maybe suggest a two hour break from each other, so that he can have his space. It allows you both to calm down, and you can then readdress things in a more rational manner - allowing you to talk it out.

Following someone will never, ever, help. I'm female, but I'm also a "flight first, talk later" kind of person. If someone followed me, I would flip right out and nothing I would say would make any sense - it's why I leave! I leave if I realize that myself or the other person can't speak respectfully or rationally. So when I leave, I'm trying to be respectful. When the other person disrespects that even further by following me, then I'm just that much more hurt and will become much angier.