Don't worry I don't want him to cover up. The think is I'm fine with seeing his scars while in group, I may have one or the other intrusive thoughts about it, but I'm fine with it 99% of the time. And when I'm not it's more like wondering what he used, how he did it... though I would never ask him directly.

The urge to self-harm is only strong in other stressful situations, like yesterday when a co-worker unknowingly triggered a flashback. That's when I would have needed the distress tolerance skills, but hadn't the time to use them... I chose to go with the quick fix....