Yes. Both myself and my best friend/room mate are avoidant. Empathy can be a blessing and a curse. There's a fine line between being considerate of others and being a door mat. I haven't seemed to learn that after three decades. Old habits die hard.

Example: We moved recently to a community where the neighbors are in close proximity. Daytime or not, I'm fed up with hearing loud, drunken fist fights, booming cars and having to pick up nasty beer cans off of my lawn. How do I approach that without being 'that person'? What if they find out that it was me? What if they retaliate? Why hasn't any one of the other 40+ neighbors complained? What to do when, technically, they're not breaking any laws because the noise is during the day? Do I have a right to encroach on their lifestyle? We can't move because we're locked into the lease for a year and my poor room mate can't get transferred to another location. If we move, does that mean the loud, inconsiderate neighbors win? That's just one example among many going on right now.

I have left the house twice this month. Last month I left once; both times, only because I had to. I used to be so strong in my 20's.

My room mate has it worse. Case and point: He's been working for a retail chain for a decade (a whole decade) and hasn't been able to make it to management yet. He gets terrified if he has to make phone calls and will put it off for weeks until it's too late and the consequences are sometimes very costly and cannot be undone.